Ladybug Speaks the Truth

 I have decided to start a new series, that I will be talking about from time to time. It's things that I have learned along the way, the hard way that would have prevented me from ending up meeting a monster like Asshole. The first and most important is to do a deep dive in the various internet search engines and social media. Asshole begged me not to Google him. Red flag number one. Here are some important places to search when you are doing some pre-screening before going to meet someone the first time: Google  - obviously! Try Googling their name and various combinations of their city, work, and even words like assault, criminal record, etc.  Facebook  (Instagram, etc) - Find their social media and see what they post. Someone going on and on about the narcissists and flying monkeys in their life screams trouble. In my experience, the person posting the memes is trying to deflect attention from what they are really doing. Also, if they keep posting the same 5 year...

  I forgot I took a screenshot of something Asshole posted online... Middle is a picture of me in the green and black dress that he fell in love with from my OKCupid profile. It's in the background of all of his well staged photos from the time when he was obsessed with manipulating me.  However, I want to talk about the outer two pictures... And Easter 2019. I originally wrote this for another blog, and you can find the original version  here. I had rules... As a single mom of three kids, I had rules and boundaries. One of which was no meeting my kids until Asshole spent a weekend at my place without them there, I spent a weekend at his place and we had to have been dating for a significant amount of time. Needless to say, Asshole is manipulative and rules 2 and 3 were broken. We had been dating about a month when Easter rolled around. Significant weekend in the Catholic and Anglican calendars. I assumed that we would be spending it apart and with our respective families...

Asshole has been talking lots on his social media about the smear campaign by the narcissists and flying monkeys to make him look bad and spread lies. The truth is, at least here, I am using his own posts, and writings to show just how bad his obsessive behaviour is, if you are the unwitting object of his affection. Case in point. The screenshot above is from Assholes Twitter. The post was made on Assholes birthday, which is also my ex-husband's birthday. On the surface, if you don't know any different, it just looks like a funny card from my current boyfriend to my ex-husband and father of my children, showing that we all have an amicable relationship. EXCEPT at the time this was posted, I hadn't seen Asshole in over a year! That's not normal! He refers to me as his beloved, except, he was on PROBATION after pleading GUILTY to charges that stem from him stalking me! He was literally forbidden from contacting me in any way, shape or form.  This blog is not a smear campa...

 **As always, the text in purple is from Google Docs converting an image to text. Anything in black is my thoughts/interpretations.** Just when you think that we are finished with the Manifesto, we find some more goodies!  1. I met Amanda Ruth Cuff (née Verhoeven) almost a year ago. I never thought I would meet someone so special and fall in love after I initiated my divorce but I did. We fell in love very fast and we both said we had found the one wanted to spend the rest of our lives with. For me, I found the great love of my life. (All evidence I have seen suggests that he initiated the divorce AFTER I broke up with him, because he lied about not being divorced! ) 2. This whole matter began with a miscommunication of a number and the assumptions and misunderstandings arising from reading the draft affidavit of my divorce papers. I felt and I still believe it could/can be resolved because I have always believed and still believe that if we act like adults and talk, and not h...

 It's funny the things that I have seen, taken screenshots of, etc over the years of dealing with Asshole. Most of it I was never sure of when I would use it. When The Manifesto arrived, and went straight to police, I thought that would finally put an end to things. Except, it didn't entirely. Asshole still kept posting on the internet about me, and our life that he dreamed of. You see, Asshole learned very quickly, that the Crown would not prosecute charges that stem from things he posted on the internet. He was told not to do it, but no one would enforce it.  Therefore, after delivering the first Manifesto, he quickly got to work writing a second Manifesto. He posted pictures of it even! Since he didn't deliver it, no one cared to do anything about it. Thankfully, we only have the pictures below to look at, and hopefully the real thing has been long since forgotten and lost. I was reminded of The Manifesto's recently when I saw a very similar red book, with similar la...

  We live in interesting times with our justice system.  Most people do not realize that publication bans are put in place during certain types of trials. The justice system says it is to protect the victims. However, what happens when the victim does not want a publication ban?  Truth is, the ban stays in place. This is because the publication ban is really to protect the defendant. Oh, innocent until proven guilty you think. Yes, that makes sense. But wait, the ban stays in effect even after the trial ends, the defendant is found guilty and trotted off to jail!  In Canada, if you are the victim of a sex crime, the publication ban stays in effect even after the guilty person is sentenced. Unless, you as a victim put forth a petition, and it is approved. This means, that as a victim of sexual assault, if you speak out about what happened to you, and there is a publication ban in place, then you can be charged. Just for sharing what happened to you. For more informati...

  If the title above is confusing for you, then please let me explain. If you understand it, and were given your own version, please share!  When I was first getting to know Asshole, I did what any normal single woman would do, I googled him. I found some stuff, his Instagram, etc. There were some pretty sappy posts for his ex-wife in what I assumed were happier times. My spidey senses tingled a bit, because there was so much. However, I myself hadn't gone back and deleted past posts with my ex-husband. Mind you we were never lovey dovey on social media. One of the things that I noticed was Asshole used the acronym DSLOML and I had no clue what it meant. It didn't matter, it was in reference to someone else. Then he started to call me DLLOML, and explained it's meaning. Red flags went off, as that meant that the meaning of DSLOML, the S stood for his ex-wife. It bothered me that he was reusing a phrase that he created for his ex-wife and substituted one letter for me. Assho...

 **As always, the text in purple is from Google Docs converting an image to text.** Eric's Statement 1 March 12, 2020 Date People come into our lives for a reason. For me, it was unconditional love. My fiancée, Amanda Cuff (Verhoeven) and I had a miscommunication on July 3, 2019 which has set the situation before me today. I take responsibility for what I plead to and I apologizi sincerity for it Amanda is the reason I divorced my ex-wife, applied for an annulment, became a Roman Catholic, sold a house, and desired to start the dream life we had planned for us and our six children. We were to marry on January 6, 2020. My desire was and is to communicate with her and It is also to her I did not lie or attempt to reconcile our amazing her at all. Sadly, a mendacions, deceitful and jealous person, [Evin L. Getty] manipulated Amanda in this situation. No matter what, I am not angry at Amanda and have no intention to hurt her. She is and will always be the great Love of my life, and no-...

 **As always, the text in purple is from Google Docs converting an image to text.** Eric Osborne March 3 2020- My darling and beautiful fiancée, Amanda! This is going to be a long letter. I have just returned from Mass and Adoration. Father Bester's sermon was succinct about the Lord's Prayer. It made me think about you and our Lord's Prayer experience. However, Father Bester's message was something I think you would have liked. We also had to jump to attention for the prayers of the faithful. I have been thinking about a number of things, and well, I thought I would start putting them down on paper. I have decided that I am going to type it out, because it would just be more legible. I have tried organizing my thoughts into various categories. How this is going to find it's way into your hands, I still don't know at this point. That is something that I am praying and thinking about each day. I miss you so much. I absolutely love you. I guess I will dive right i...