Ladybug Speaks the Truth

 Well, it's been a hot minute, hasn't it! Things have been mostly quiet while Asshole appeals a conviction that he received back in late 2023. The system is slow and takes forever. While the conviction is under publication ban, his appeal is not. However I will avoid saying much more than that, as I don't want to risk mixing up what is and isn't under publication ban. What I will say, is that given the number of convictions he has with me as the victim, that made him a repeat offender with the case that "concluded" in the fall of 2023. As part of the appeal in that case, Asshole's infinitely smart lawyer has decided to have Asshole appeal his guilty pleas in my cases. Yep, you heard that right! In 2020 and again in 2022 Asshole plead guilty to Criminal Harassment, breach of probation, etc. Plead guilty because he knew that he was guilty. Now, 4 years later, they are appealing those guilty please. If he does that, then my cases will be forced to go to trial...

 Once upon a time, math was simple. Math was math. Numbers where finite things that could not be turned into something else. As an accounting professional, numbers are my life. They are my jam. It is how I pay my bills and support my kids. I know my numbers inside and out. However, the Canadian justice system doesn't understand numbers. In Ontario we have something called "new math." If you are a parent of a certain age, raising kids these days, you have encountered new math. It is kinda like old math, but not quite. With new math, you have to use a different process, that causes you to jump through some mental hoops to get to the final answer. It's hard for me to explain, but I finally found the perfect example of how to explain Ontario new math. Hypothetical situation: If Mr. X is convicted of a crime and sentenced to 18 months less time served waiting for bail, his total sentence remaining ends up being 499 days. This is because Mr. X is credited with time in custo...

 It's been a long battle watching someone go through the process of laying charges against their rapist. In a nut shell, this is the process as I have understood it so far, in a generalized sense of things. Step 1 -  Trust someone enough to let them into your life, where they then take advantage of you, sexually assualt you and gaslight you about it not actually happeneing. Step 2 - Repeat the abuse a couple of more times, until you realize shit, that was not ok Step 3 - Get the courage to speak to police about what happened Step 4 - Police lay charges, rapist is arrested and held for bail Step 5 - Rapist will get bail, because it's Canada and the jails are full Step 6 - Multiple court dates over several months to exchange information, set dates for setting more dates, etc Step 7 - More than a year after the initial assault, finally go to trial. Except, this is Canada, and court time is limited, so the trial will be spread out over multiple, non-consecutive days, non-consecuti...

  It is a hard world that we live in to meet someone new and trust them. Online dating is the easiest place to meet someone, but also the scariest. As Dr. House says "It's a basic truth of the human condition, that everybody lies. The only variable is about what." I have recently learned about a government of Ontario website called ONe-Key . This resource is a place to access a multitude of services in Ontario, including Justice Services Online. What is Justice Services Online you ask. Well, it is a place for people to go and check information about their upcoming court dates. It is a fully searchable system for upcoming court dates. This means that you can't search closed cases here. With the information I had on July 3, 2019 (after Police gave me the information) I know now that if I had done a search on this site, I would have had that information in March 2019,and saved myself a lot of headaches. Setting up an account is easy, and once you do, you want the Justice...

  If you look at Asshole's Facebook, his relationship status is always "in a relationship" of some sort. However, I am not sure if he knows the definition of relationship. Perhaps, he doesn't mean "in a healthy relationship." Oxford Languages (Goolge) has this to say about relationship: re·la·tion·ship noun the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. "the study will assess the  relationship between  unemployment and political attitudes" Similar: connection relation association link correlation correspondence parallel tie-in tie-up alliance bond interrelation interconnection interdependence of the state of being connected by blood or marriage. "they can trace their relationship to a common ancestor" Similar: family ties family connections blood relationship blood ties kinship affinity consanguinity common ancestry common lineage connection propinquity the way in which two or mor...

  Flying Monkey might not be a term that you are familiar with, or at least you weren't before you met Asshole. He loves using this term, because he in fact uses Flying Monkey's to try to manipulate people. He may have even turned you into a Flying Monkey without you even knowing it. I think that everyone has seen The Wizard of Oz. The wicked witch has her flying monkeys that she sends to do her bidding. Whatever she wants done, she sends them, so that she doesn't have to lift a finger. That's what narcissists do. They send Flying Monkeys to send messages, or do things for them to their victims. What are flying monkeys?   The term ‘flying monkeys’ is another way of saying ‘abuse by proxy’ or having someone else do the bidding of in this case a narcissist. If you click the link above, it is a great article that explains how narcissists groom you and your friends to be their flying monkeys. An example of how Asshole tried to manipulate someone to be a flying monkey was an...