Easter 2019

 

I forgot I took a screenshot of something Asshole posted online... Middle is a picture of me in the green and black dress that he fell in love with from my OKCupid profile. It's in the background of all of his well staged photos from the time when he was obsessed with manipulating me. 

However, I want to talk about the outer two pictures... And Easter 2019. I originally wrote this for another blog, and you can find the original version here.

I had rules... As a single mom of three kids, I had rules and boundaries. One of which was no meeting my kids until Asshole spent a weekend at my place without them there, I spent a weekend at his place and we had to have been dating for a significant amount of time. Needless to say, Asshole is manipulative and rules 2 and 3 were broken.

We had been dating about a month when Easter rolled around. Significant weekend in the Catholic and Anglican calendars. I assumed that we would be spending it apart and with our respective families. Asshole assumed otherwise, and put forth some kind of compelling argument. I don't remember quite what he said. I will admit that I was easily manipulated by a man who paid a decent amount of attention to me.

As the time starts getting closer to Easter weekend, Asshole let me know that he had gifts for my children. How sweet I thought. However, when he arrived, he was empty handed. Apparently forgotten in his hurry. I let it slide, as I too am often forgetful. Besides, I didn't expect him to be giving the kids anything. This I would eventually learn would become the way it was. Always promised gifts that never surfaced. 

As the weekend progressed, we went to lots of church services, prepared an incredible meal and I baked the cake that you desperately wanted. It looked like a bird nest. It was a masterpiece to look at. It wasn't the best cake to eat, and I would never make it again, but it looked great. Hence the reason that it lives on. I have seen so many posts with well placed pictures of that cake on Asshole's social media. I think he pretended that he made it himself, despite acting like he couldn't use a mixer. I realize know he was using weaponized incompetence.

As this Lent marches forward towards Easter I am reminded of what it cost me to sacrifice my boundaries that Easter weekend in 2019. I have learned from my mistakes, and will never allow a man who won't take no for an answer into my life again.