Ladybug Speaks the Truth

 It's been a long battle watching someone go through the process of laying charges against their rapist. In a nut shell, this is the process as I have understood it so far, in a generalized sense of things. Step 1 -  Trust someone enough to let them into your life, where they then take advantage of you, sexually assualt you and gaslight you about it not actually happeneing. Step 2 - Repeat the abuse a couple of more times, until you realize shit, that was not ok Step 3 - Get the courage to speak to police about what happened Step 4 - Police lay charges, rapist is arrested and held for bail Step 5 - Rapist will get bail, because it's Canada and the jails are full Step 6 - Multiple court dates over several months to exchange information, set dates for setting more dates, etc Step 7 - More than a year after the initial assault, finally go to trial. Except, this is Canada, and court time is limited, so the trial will be spread out over multiple, non-consecutive days, non-consecuti...

  It is a hard world that we live in to meet someone new and trust them. Online dating is the easiest place to meet someone, but also the scariest. As Dr. House says "It's a basic truth of the human condition, that everybody lies. The only variable is about what." I have recently learned about a government of Ontario website called ONe-Key . This resource is a place to access a multitude of services in Ontario, including Justice Services Online. What is Justice Services Online you ask. Well, it is a place for people to go and check information about their upcoming court dates. It is a fully searchable system for upcoming court dates. This means that you can't search closed cases here. With the information I had on July 3, 2019 (after Police gave me the information) I know now that if I had done a search on this site, I would have had that information in March 2019,and saved myself a lot of headaches. Setting up an account is easy, and once you do, you want the Justice...

  If you look at Asshole's Facebook, his relationship status is always "in a relationship" of some sort. However, I am not sure if he knows the definition of relationship. Perhaps, he doesn't mean "in a healthy relationship." Oxford Languages (Goolge) has this to say about relationship: re·la·tion·ship noun the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. "the study will assess the  relationship between  unemployment and political attitudes" Similar: connection relation association link correlation correspondence parallel tie-in tie-up alliance bond interrelation interconnection interdependence of the state of being connected by blood or marriage. "they can trace their relationship to a common ancestor" Similar: family ties family connections blood relationship blood ties kinship affinity consanguinity common ancestry common lineage connection propinquity the way in which two or mor...

  Flying Monkey might not be a term that you are familiar with, or at least you weren't before you met Asshole. He loves using this term, because he in fact uses Flying Monkey's to try to manipulate people. He may have even turned you into a Flying Monkey without you even knowing it. I think that everyone has seen The Wizard of Oz. The wicked witch has her flying monkeys that she sends to do her bidding. Whatever she wants done, she sends them, so that she doesn't have to lift a finger. That's what narcissists do. They send Flying Monkeys to send messages, or do things for them to their victims. What are flying monkeys?   The term ‘flying monkeys’ is another way of saying ‘abuse by proxy’ or having someone else do the bidding of in this case a narcissist. If you click the link above, it is a great article that explains how narcissists groom you and your friends to be their flying monkeys. An example of how Asshole tried to manipulate someone to be a flying monkey was an...

Asshole claims to have learned a new term, douche canoe... It applies according to him to the narcissists and their flying monkeys, which of course is RJJANE.  Let's take Asshole's advice and look up the definition of Douche Canoe according to Urban Dictionary. Ah yes, there it is. Douche Canoe:    A Douche   Canoe   is an elongated version of a douchebag. Someone so full of themselves and narcissistic tendencies that are eerily   misplaced   considering they are jobless, live off women, cheat and are generally not able to be classified as anything but a douche   canoe . Well, I wonder if we know anyone who meets that definition? I am honestly shocked that his picture is not right beside the definition.

 Asshole keeps posting about the smear campaign against him. He is really hung up on saying that there are six individuals with the initials RJJANE that are out to get him. He won't name names of course, because he knows that he is wrong, and in naming those six individuals, he will actually be violating various probation and release conditions set out by the courts. It got me thinking though, what exactly is a smear campaign? Oxford Languages Dictionary, which is the dictionary that Google relies on, states that it is a  "a plan to  discredit  a public figure by making false or  dubious   accusations ." Well, Asshole definitely is not a public figure, although he sure thinks that he is. In this blog, the letters from Asshole that I have posted, are letters that he wrote to me, so his own words, these are his claims and accusations. This must mean that he knows that his own words are full of lies? Is that what the smear campaign is? Me spreading his own bul...

  I have decided that this week, we are going to be focusing on words and definitions. Asshole has lots of big words that he likes to throw around, however he clearly has no clue what they actually mean. So, without further ado, let's begin Word of the Day Week here at Ladybug Speaks Truth. Obviously we need to kick off the week strong with Asshole's favourite word, Narcissist. Oxford Languages has this to say about narcissist: nar·cis·sist noun a person who has an excessive interest in or  admiration  of themselves. "narcissists who think the world revolves around them" Wikipedia has this to say about Narcissism: Narcissism  is a self-centered personality style characterized as having an excessive preoccupation with oneself and one's own needs, often at the expense of others. [1] [2] Narcissism exists on a continuum that ranges from normal to abnormal personality expression. [3]  While there exists  normal, healthy levels of narcissism  in humans, the...