Welcome!

 Hello and welcome dear guest. You may have found my little space on the internet from another blog that I guest write on. If that is the case, a) I am sorry and b) life gets better after Asshole.

For those that are completely new and lost, let me give a brief introduction:

In 2019 I met (and was manipulated) by Asshole. He lied about everything under the sun, probably including the colour of the sun. He was charming, and manipulative. After a whirlwind 3 months of dating, I made my daring escape, by leaving him in a Shoppers Drugmart parking lot in Stratford and hightailing it home to where I live, in another county. I thought that was the end of things. I know it was a bit dramatic of an exit, but I truly did fear for my safety, and the safety of my children. Once home, I involved police, and they advised me on how to proceed, but warned me that he likely would leave me alone, as he currently had a warrant for his arrest. That was a bit of a shock. 

The coming months however, proved that Asshole did not care about his arrest warrants, and continued to try to reconcile our relationship. Eventually was charged with Criminal Harrassment, and plead guilty to about half of the charges. (There were many laid over a three month period.) Now for sure I knew that things would return to normal. He was now on probation, and couldn't contact me for 2 years. However, after signing the documents in court promising not to attempt to contact me, etc., he immediately drove to my parents home and violated that probation order.

Then the pandemic hit. It took over 2 years for the new charges to work through the court system. He would plead guilty again, and is currently under a 3 year probation, with lots of restrictions. This time he seems to be leaving me alone.

Except, it is because he has found new victims. Victim #3 (I am actually #2) has pressed charges, and I won't be commenting on that case, as it is not finished. Victim #4 is currently still dating him, and I am sure that in time, will find the strength needed to leave.

Right now, this blog is for Victim #4 and 5, and all the ones that have yet to come forward. Heck, I am near positive that there are victims that have stayed silent, which is why I number us in the order that we came forward. Not to mention, Asshole does not discriminate based on sex, however, so far the victims that have come forward have all been female. I know that the justice system is difficult, and does not treat same sex victims with the respect and dignity that it should.

I have lots to say, and will be jumping around a bit. Most of my experiences were shared on another blog, but I will be reviewing those posts, and looking to add them here in time. I also want to share documents that I have that are in Asshole's own handwriting. I think that for some people, seeing is believing, and I want them to see that the things he says to them now, are the exact same things that he has said to every past victim. Unfortunately we are not as special as he says that we are. That's the narcissist. They only care about keeping you under their spell, and will say whatever you want to hear.

Until next time...